A little Advise

So I know a few people that got married recently, so I decided to do an advise blog. I also see a lot of people already having divorces. I don't know what happens, but I feel like this world is just very ok with giving up and taking the easy road. I don't know if anyone has realized.. Life, it isn't easy. So we need to learn to handle situations and not run. Now let me make it clear that I am NOT an expert in this category.  But I feel as if mine and Jordan's relationship has been bumpy and our personalties clash and we have really learned how to handle things. So without further ado... Some advise.

 Learning their Love

Now everyone has thier own way of showing love and their own way of wanting love to be shown. Figuring out how your hubs/wifey likes to be shown love can sometimes be a difficult road, especially when you just want to do what you think the best way to show love is. 

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/
Here is a link to a test you can take to find out what kind of love language you are. So with all of this, as hard as it might be to remember your hubs/wifey might not feel very loved by the way you are showing them. I have found that if you try to show them you love them how they would like to be shown. More smiles come with. 

 Thank you

Along with showing their kind of love. No matter what they do to show you they love you, say thank you! Even if it's not the way you like to be shown love. Having gratitude towards each other helps build a steadier stronger relationship. 

 Talk! Talk! TALK!!

Not only talk about your day. Talk about how you are feeling. Tell your hubs/wifey things that are bugging you. Tell then your love language. Tell them you would like help with things. Just talk!! 

 The NEVERS

    1. Never mention a divorce 

        If it's never brought up, it's never eating away at your insides.

    2. Never run to your parents!!

        Your parents don't love this person like you do, therefor making it hard for them to forgive them for anything. Parents also only think about you in a situation and in most cases will make matters worse. -if you need to vent, go to anyone but your parents- 

    3. Never undermine them

         Making them feel stupid in front of others. Slowly shattering their self confidence will bring a wedge and sense of not being loved to a relationship. 
(section is red because I think these are big huge giant NO NO's.)

 Be by my side

Relationships get rough. And people are not perfect! And there will be a point one of you will struggle. Wether it be depression, sickness, addiction, fights.... The best way for your loved one is for you to be there by their side helping them through it all. In most cases, they aren't happy with themselves, they don't need you being not happy with them as well. They need someone to help them walk through the storm. And they will turn around and help you when it's your turn. 

 Keeping Christ the center

It's pretty easy to figure out what has happened when things start getting bumpy and it seems as if yelling is the only form of communication either of us know. We have gotten lazy and put worldly worries first. As simple as it sounds, is as simple as it is. Keeping Christ the center of the home keeps the home happy and at peace.

Like I said, I am not perfect at these. I am always working on them. And as life grows older and we change. So will the challenges and we will have to relearn how to handle situations. It is a never ending process. But if you both continuously try, things will become easier. You will learn how this person thinks, acts, and understand their emotions and soon both of you will fall into harmony and things will be figured out a lot faster, maybe not a lot nicer.  No one ever told you marriage would be easy when you where jumping into it (and if they did, they are living a lie) It is two completely different people, living different lives, coming together and trying to figure out how they should live a life together.